Depression is the sadness that seems to stay with us for a long time after the death. It is characterized by low energy and a lack of interest in the pleasures of life. As you learn to accept and express your feelings the depression will begin to lift. You will realize that it is lifting when you are able to have a fairly good day and not cry every time you talk about the loss. Be gentle with yourself and give yourself time. It may take several years for you to get to the point of feeling really good about life again. Within six months of the death you should start to notice improvement in your sleeping habits and appetite as well as an increased ability to concentrate, work, and find pleasure in living. If you notice no improvement in these areas or have thoughts about wanting to hurt yourself or die, you may be experiencing a depression that requires professional help.