New Years Resolution for the Bereaved

 

 

THIS YEAR I VOW TO…

ALLOW AND HONOR ALL MY FEELINGS

  • Not to judge myself or my feelings
  • Not to utter or think any rules or “shoulds”

LISTEN TO MY HEART

  • To enter that still, sure place within where peace survives
  • To trust my inner voice

TREAT MYSELF LIKE A PRECIOUS CHILD

  • To be gentle and compassionate toward myself
  • To be kind and forgiving toward myself
  • To reassure myself I am doing the best I can in this moment

GIVE MYSELF WHATEVER TIME I NEED TO GRIEVE,

  • whenever I need it

ALLOW MYSELF THE RELIEF FROM ISOLATION, COMPARISONS, AND JUDGMENT

  • Find support from someone who will be with me just as I am

TRUST MY BODY TO KNOW HOW TO GRIEVE, AND

  • then let it

ALLOW LOVE TO FLOW TO ME FROM MY COMMUNITY

  • from family who may not have understood me
  • from unexpected people who surround me
  • from a friend to sit with me, hold me, and comfort my mind/body/and soul

TO FIND MIRACLES IN THE MOST ORDINARY OF THINGS AND EVENTS EACH DAY

  • a sunrise, a hummingbird, the wet nose of a dog, a child pumping on a swing
  • I will see and even feel wonder and beauty in the world without the guilt or despair that I am enjoying it without my loved one

TO TAKE ONE DEEP BREATH AFTER ANOTHER, AND

  • trust my resilience and ability to be with all my feelings

TO HOLD ON TO THE LOVE, AND

  • not let death end my relationship with my loved one